SECRET to a WOMAN's HEART

     

Writing an article about men was easy for me. Articles on how to deal with them, handle them, build relationships, etc. Maybe because I grew up surrounded with four handsome brothers having different characters: bossy, moody and emotional, deep and introvert, playful, strong personality just to name a few. FYI: I'm the only girl in the family aside from my pretty mom.

     Now, while writing this article about women, it took me hours to think on how to start. Until my hubby opened his mouth and asked me, "Something wrong? "... I stopped, stared at him and begun smiling, sayin "Gang, how did you HANDLE ME? how did I end up having a wondrous, contented and amazing life with you?... kahit matigas ang ulo ko (I'm stubborn) and despite  of our differences". From there, we had a small talk and he started sharing these top TWO SECRETS he's been using, he called  these his "two gigantic S".

 Make your woman or girl feel:  SPECIAL

     The word "special" according to my best friend, Mr Dictionary (hahaha), means distinguished or different from what is usual or ordinary.

     You have to treat your woman VERY SPECIAL, different from any other girl or woman. She should be able to determine and get the message that you're treating her as someone special, giving her a special treatment. How? Through your words and actions, these two should be partners, should be together at the same time -- not just words alone and not just actions alone. The Bible said "Let us not love with words or tongue alone but with actions and in truth" I John 3:18 (NIV).

     Personally, I like it when my partner/ hubby gives me flowers and chocolates, saves the first slot for me during buffet lines, surprises me in every occasion, waits for me in every meal, opens the door for me and a lot more. These are just few examples on how he made me feel I'm special THROUGH ACTIONS. I can still remember, there was a time during our 1st boyfriend-girlfriend anniversary, that was June 23, 2005 (exact date), John surprised me with a very simple card made of recycled paper with ribbons in it and with matching music bell (since he can't afford to buy expensive stuffs before, he was a working student). I was so touched and kinda 'kilig' that time, feeling like a high school girl having her first puppy love. It was not the card that I appreciate the most, it's HIS EFFORT and time while preparing that recycled card he made specially for me. This is another surprise he gave me, he painted and emailed this while waiting for his client on the phone, during working hours (hehehe).

 

Until now even if he affords to buy me gifts, he still manages to excite me with his surprises. He SPENDS QUALITY TIME with me even if he's busy. We eat together, watch movie together, play with our baby together, pray together and go to church together (Only Jesus Baptist Mission). Remember guys, small gestures count the most. 

     I also like it when my partner /hubby tells me I look pretty when I'm wearing a dress, appreciates me all the time like "Gang, your spaghetti tastes soo good, I want more" or whenever he tells me "You're important to me, I'll sacrifice everything for you" and "I Love You" all the time, everyday. These are his ways on how to make me feel special THROUGH his WORDS. Best part is, he's not just saying it but he's also doing it in action.

     Now, it's your turn to think of ways on how to make your woman feel SPECIAL.

 Make your woman or girl feel:  SECURED

There are 2 things under the SECURITY aspects of a woman

1.  Emotionally Secured - a woman feels secured emotionally if she knows she has someone to lean on and trust, some "HERO" image whose sensitive of her needs emotionally. Someone who LISTENS and spends quality time with her. Someone who checks her all the time and shows her that "Hey, Im here to protect you, whatever it takes."

 

Being sensitive and eager to know your woman's thoughts or feelings gives her the security that YOU CARE and that YOU'RE INTERESTED with her and that you're the 'HERO' who will protect her all the time. YOU HAVE TO GAIN HER TRUST. It may take weeks or years but you'll be surprise, in the end no matter how tiger and strong your woman is, she will show you how weak and fragile she is and that she needs you. She'll learn to submit. She'll be very loyal to you. So, stand firm and be strong.

Just a Reminder: Don't break a woman's heart, specially her trust --- its hard to have it back.

2.  Financially Secured - you might think, you have to be rich: with savings, car, house and lot just for you to perform this secret. Well, sadly, yes there are some women who are really after this aspect before they say 'Yes'. But what I mean with financially secured is that we, women want to be secured with our FUTURE, not necessarily now, but as long as our guy has a CONCRETE PLAN and has direction in life to reach that plan and be successful --- we are financially secured. 

 

I so love it when John initiates the PLAN for our family's future, our short and long term goal, steps on how to achieve it and the time frame. He literally writes and saves it in his Android Tablet for him to be reminded. He makes sure that aside from planning, he does the IMPLEMENTATION also, he acts right away! I feel so secured and thankful to the point that I dont need to worry for our future, specially our baby's future, since I know aside from God being there all the time (I Peter 5: 7 "Cast all your cares upon Him"), I'm confident that John is there and will never stop providing for us. What I do is just to help him, support him, encourage him and be his inspiration. I make sure that he's health is ok since he needs it along the way, like preparing a DXN coffee for him(his favourite), give him RG/GL food supplement for detox and vitamins

     Try to follow these 2 simple secrets guys! And be the HERO and the BEST in your woman's eyes and heart.

     Let me know your story, I'd like to hear from you, email me: ladyhblogger@gmail.com

How to Deal with my MAN?

     Let me begin with 'Good morning'. I'm not really sure how to start this article "how to deal with my man", but as I wake up this morning, my mind kept on throwing ideas in my head and I can't stop writing it.

     In our generation, the world is promoting this line "WOMEN RULES". You can see it in the television, newspaper, internet, every promotional ads, its even being practiced already anywhere, at home, at school, office, government or any institution --- women are now dominating the world.

     Truth is a woman might be strong outside but the inner depth is still weak. Well, this is not about us, women... this article is about men! How to handle your man despite of your strong personality. I have here just 2 major, major pointers, just 2 pointers that you have to keep in mind that might help you reaching your goal of handling your man to a better and stronger relationship. These practices helped millions of women globally already. But before anything else I need you to MEMORIZE these two pointers by heart, and ofcourse APPLY IT (push yourself!) until these become your character. It may take days, weeks, months or even years.Trust me, it's worth your effort.

ALWAYS MAKE YOUR MAN FEEL:

Practice # 1: He's the BOSS

     We have to realize women / girls that "PRIDE" is very important, super duper mega important to our men. For us women, it's our 'reputation' that matters. Now, you have to make your man feel and know that he's "THE BOSS", that you can't move without his help. That you're helpless without him when he's around  (even if you can really do things). Let him make the decisions or not really the whole decision but ask for his opinion all the time, making him feel his idea matters to you. In that way, you're helping him gain his confidence and pride, making him realize that "Hey, I have to be strong for my girl, she needs me". Also remember, 'Two are better than one!" (Ecclesiastes 4:9). There's a tablet pc that contains eBook or installed with bible verses that might help explain this section, bring it anywhere to be reminded.

Keep in mind: If your man feels that he's no longer needed by you and that you  know everything, tendency is, he might leave you on your own, since he's no longer important and can't reach you anymore, or worst, he'll look for another woman / girl who will make him feel "the HERO".



Practice # 2: He's the BEST

Since pride is important to your man, being "THE   BEST" is also part of that pride. He wants YOUR PRAISES ALL THE TIME. He wants your smile and yes, he wants you to be always PROUD of him in all aspect: physical appearance, his job, his gifts, his accomplishments, his family, etc. He wants your appreciation every minute. 

Now, your job is to make him feel and show him that he's really really good. You have to tell him out loud, tell him he's handsome, you like his eyes, you like his smile, you appreciate his gifts and efforts, you're proud of his job, etc. So many things to appreciate, focus on his POSITIVE attributes rather than the negative ones.

Below is a pair of DO's and DONT's that might help you understand this "HE's the BEST" section. With the donts honestly I, myself sometimes forget these.. so please help yourselves.. The Don't part often causes our men to lose their pride and confidence.. in the end we might lose them:

DON'T: Avoid using the word YOU negatively when you're upset with him when he failed to do something, like blaming him because of what happened. Example: "YOU are so lazy!! Look for a job" or "YOU are late again, YOU're so slow!"----> this 'you' word when used negatively will really degrade your man's pride.

DO: Encourage him by highlighting or praising his positive attributes. Example: "Hon, you're GOOD in dealing with different kinds of people, I'm sure you'll succeed in sales" this line  shows "HE'S the BEST" , or "Hon, I was so afraid here in the street while waiting for you" ----> with this line you're showing him "HE's the BOSS" you need him all the time and he's your hero, so he'll keep in mind that you need him to be early.

There are many testimonies that prove the effectiveness of these 2 major practices on 'How to handle your man", google it!... I, myself improved my relationship not just with my man but with my brothers, my dad and other friend guys. You might say, you're still young Ladyh to say these are effective, YES, that's true, but I'm enjoying the results right now and striving hard to improve more and building these 2 practices as my character with God's help. There's a place in Las Pinas that helped me a lot when it comes to this 'relationship building' article --- OJBM, Uniwide Las Pinas Branch, Philippines.

Remember, "There's always a woman behind a man's success".

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